Day #79 – Some people hate tea. You can’t be their cup.

You can't control the judgements of others. Stop caring.

You can’t control the judgements of others. Stop caring.

No self help or music tonight folks.

The other day I met someone who started asking me about my blog. I didn’t bring it up. They’d ‘never’ read it. But absolutely wanted to talk about it. They didn’t understand it. They didn’t get why I was doing this. Why I was broadcasting my journey. Why it was so important for me to ‘make it’. If I’m really interested in singing and music then I should just be happy creating and sharing it. Why am I so hung up on hitting the big time? What has a blog got to do with it? They were a little… condescending to say the least.

To anybody else thinking the same, I’d first like to point you in the direction of the ‘about’ tab, where it explains most of that. In addition, I’m writing this blog for 2 reasons. Maybe 3. First of all, it’s a diary. A journey. A notebook. It keeps me going when I feel like quitting. I know that I can’t, because I have made a commitment. Not just to myself anymore. I can track my progress. I can see where I’ve been and where I’m going. Secondly. It’s an experiment. I’m trying out a theory. Everybody can get what they want if they work hard enough and act like a boss. Thirdly. We live in the 21st century. Had to google that – not going to lie. Social media is where it is at. I’m publicly broadcasting my journey so that other people might feel inspired. Im broadcasting it because I want the right person to notice it. Pick it up. Pick me up.

I don’t personally see the shame in that.

The question was still there though? Why? Why is that important to you? I don’t get it…

Well, erm, other people matter to me. People I know. People I don’t know. I think people matter. I know a lot of people and have met a lot of people. I co exist and share the planet with other people and I can see a lot of them are sad. They’re done in. Fed up. Burned out. Depressed. Consumed by a rat race. A lot of people feel out of control, they’re stuck in ruts, they’re angry. At their wits end. Full of anxiety. Surely life was meant to be better than this. I’m doing this for those people. I think that a lot of the time the core issue for all of these problems is people not living their own truths. As a result of fear people haven’t chased their dreams and are hellbent on blaming everything and everyone else for it. That dream could be as simple as getting a job. Going on holiday. Joining a club. So here I am. I’m going to chase my dream. I’m going to face my fears and I’m going to jump. If I can do it. That means you can too. Jump with me. Let’s all get busy being happy. As for the self help style posts. I’m just sharing what I’m learning so that it might help you too. That is all. No I don’t want to be a self help writer now. I still want to be a singer.

But why do you need to be massive? Why is that so important to you? I don’t get it.

I actually don’t care about fame at all. This isn’t about fame. It’s about cash. People recoil at this. I’m not greedy for money. So far from it. I’m greedy for the change I can bring about with it’s help. Everybody knows that the music industry is extremely hard to make a living out of. There are bands that have been around for years, making incredible music, touring the world, that should be earning great money as musicians. They’re not. They’re still doing day jobs in between. There are great musicians that never even made it that far. Still slogging a 9-5 job they hate. Sitting on untapped talent. A lot have to quit music because they just can’t afford it anymore. They start a family. Life happens. So I could join that club. I would be happy and honoured to do all of the above. Life has already happened in this camp. But it’s not just music that is important to me. Or driving me. The world is too. There are people and causes and things that I would like to pump money into. Projects I want to create. Already existing charities that I want to support. Individuals I have watched struggle. I want so much cash so I can give it away. If I want to make as much money as I do, to support as many things as I want to support, and I also want to create music. It’s kind of a no brainer.  There isn’t really another choice. If I can bring attention and cash to important causes and inspire people to care more for our communities then my work is done.

Ive tried not doing music. I’ve tried politics and development. I’ve tried fundraising. I’ve tried volunteering. All have been great experience and I keep my fingers in all of those pies. Ive learnt something from all of it. But it’s not what I want to do. I’m not satisfied as a fundraiser or a budding politician. I want to be a singer. Ive always wanted to be a singer. I’ve always avoided being a singer. You can’t live a fulfilling and happy life if every day you’re pushing in the wrong direction, against your own grain. No sir.

Anybody else want a pop? X


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One response to “Day #79 – Some people hate tea. You can’t be their cup.

  1. hoda sepehrara

    You’re an absolute inspiration..hell why NOT get busy getting happy? And why not chase money to change the world for others. The world desperately needs more people like you. Thank you xxx


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