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Day #365 – The End. The beginning.

Wow. I can’t believe it’s the end of this chapter already. What a year…

Cosmic Order started as an experiment. I like playing with things. Life is supposed to be playful. I wanted to see if cosmic ordering actually worked. I wanted to see if anything really is possible  if we are brave enough. I saw so many people, including myself, stuck in the rat race, stuck doing things society said they should be doing, being something everyone else wanted them to be. I saw a lot of sad and frustrated people. I wanted to do this experiment for them as much as me. Hell, if I can do it, then we all can.

My cosmic order was that I wanted to be a singer. I wanted a record deal. I wanted the massive record deal specifically because I wanted to be earning heaps of money so I could pile it into the community. I wanted to help fix all the things our leaders and governments are ignoring. I’m so tired of seeing people sleep outside and then walking past a derelict house.

When I started I was not a singer. I was a full time mother to three young children. I’d been at home with them, doing nothing much for myself, for the best part of three years. I’d had some singing lessons and sang a handful of times on stage but mostly in secret. Nobody knew that I wanted to sing so badly or that the only thing I really ever dreamed of was working in music. It wasn’t a real job. It wasn’t realistic. It wasn’t achievable. There is a certain amount of stigma attached to non mainstream, creative careers. A sense of ‘That’s cute, but what are you really going to do? You need to get a real job’. So you can get the mortgage and picket fence and what not. I sang at home. All the time. The minute the house was empty, from the age of fifteen, I sang to the walls. I tried to want to do other things. I studied an array of different subjects and industries, both creative and academic. None of them stuck. None of them will ever stick. Because I want to sing and work in music. It is, was and always will be music. I feel better since being honest.

I had no idea how this was going to pan out. I was terrified that I’d shared my dreams. I was terrified that I was going to get laughed at. I was terrified that I was going to fail. Or look stupid. I had no confidence in myself or my abilities. I wasn’t good enough. I had not one clue how I was going to even start making music. I’d never recorded anything myself before. Computers aren’t my friends. I knew nothing. But I decided what I wanted and started walking. Whatever thought or feeling came into my head, I wrote about it and as I slowly worked through my own demons, opportunities started coming. I didn’t look for them. I didn’t think about them. They just came. I kept working on myself and working hard in the right direction and every time an opportunity came my way I said yes. I had no idea where anything would go, if anywhere, but I trusted something would come out of everything I pursued. I would learn something in every situation.

The amount that I took on this year has been insane but you know what? You’ll work hard for the things that matter to you. If you don’t, you don’t want it enough. I did a lot of personal development work as a result of the cosmic ordering research I was doing. The more I read, the more I learnt. Anything IS possible and there is beauty and love everywhere, sitting waiting to lavish us if only we would see it. We can all lead the lives we want to. We just need to fix ourselves and our thinking first. Life is fundamentally beautiful. Shit happens, but that fact remains. It’s not a rat race. It’s not a struggle. It’s not a battle.  We weren’t born for that. We weren’t born to live a life that somebody else thinks we should live. We weren’t born to be sad. It’s a wonderful life and it’s a gift. It’s yours.

So does cosmic ordering work? That was the question. That was the experiment. The answer is yes. Without a doubt. The law of attraction is as powerful as the law of gravity. It has worked in my life in both good ways and bad ways and I’ve observed them both. When I’ve been feeling awful and negative I attracted nothing but crap and blocks. When I felt happy and positive and open, when I believed in myself, opportunities came. All I did was say out loud, ‘I want to be a singer’ and focused on that. I didn’t sit back and wait for it to be delivered on a silver plate. Life doesn’t work like that. I got up off my arse and worked until I cried. I learnt how to use my computer (a little bit), I learnt how to record music at home, I got a job working at a music studio in return for studio time, I learnt how recording onto 8 track works. I learnt a lot about the music industry. How it works. How labels work. How actually getting a record deal isn’t the be all and end all. I’ve learnt about PR. I’ve learnt that you can do everything yourself. I started a band with one of the most talented people I have ever had the pleasure of. Last week our band Rope Store played the Norwich Arts Centre, voted the UKs best small music venue, supporting Speedometer, an incredible funk band. It was our 2nd gig. I am a singer. It works. Oh the record deal bit didn’t happen. Not yet. Maybe it won’t. Maybe it will. It doesn’t really matter. I know that I could make that bit happen if I worked hard at getting it and was clear about exactly what I want. I haven’t built shit loads of affordable housing either or solved the UKs unaffordable childcare problem. But you know, give it time. It’s time for a new order.

The most wonderful thing about this has been the unexpected opportunities and lessons life threw at me along the way. The blog reminded me how much I enjoy writing and for the last few months I’ve been writing for several online magazines, building my portfolio back up, so that I can do freelance writing alongside the music. The surprises weren’t all great. Six months in I became a single parent. Dealing with a major break up and turning solo definitely impacted my progress and had that not happened, who knows where or what I’d be doing. I almost drowned a few times. I’m not a great swimmer but my arm bands are incredible. I believe that everything happens for our greater good. I got shattered, bashed and bruised and I’ve never felt so open and broken and vulnerable in my life. I didn’t know a break up could create that much seemingly endless pain and suffering. I don’t believe it should actually. But I’ve also never felt so grateful or still. Maybe I needed that. Life is beautiful.

So that’s it! Cosmic Order is over! I’m taking off. I’ve got this bass that I have to get busy with, I’m turning this blog into a book (it’s much juicier), I’ve got some original solo material I want to work on, our band Rope Store are making little ripples and I need to go outside and shout thank you to the sky and laugh my head off with my little girls.

Thank you SO much to each and every one of you. You have no idea how grateful I am for your support. I have been absolutely over whelmed by the response I have received. Over 10,000 people from all over the world have taken the time to read my ramblings. Total strangers have emailed me with words of encouragement and it’s made me so happy that I’ve helped them in some way follow their own bliss too. Please do what makes you happy.

Mr Jason. I’ll be eternally grateful to you and EVERYTHING you have taught me and helped me with. Thank you for the ear upgrade, the corona addiction and keeping me going when shit got rough. Thank you for being such a wonderful and true friend.

I’ll be back in September with a new cosmic order and a new and improved soap box. It’s far from over. In the meantime you can follow me on twitter, instagram, Facebook.. Youtube. God social media, why are there so many of you?

Things end. Things also begin. X

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Day #233 – The Invitation.

Then, one day she decided to design a life she loved.

Then, one day she decided to design a life she loved.

I’m somewhat technically limited presently. I’m without laptop and constrained to this strange invention one calls an iPad. Honestly, not sure why anybody would have one. It’s just a massive phone. I could have put my cash towards one the other day, but I chose a bass over a computer. It’s all for the same cause. Far prettier than any laptop I’ve ever seen and she speaks a language I understand. I can’t complan… Not too much.

Instead of writing a blog today and hammering you with personal development ideas, I’m going to share this beautiful poem I read the other day. It is Christmas after all! And the Winter Solstice! That’s quite significant. Today is the perfect day to set your intentions for the coming year. This poem made me so happy and resonated with me on every level. It’s basically what I want to ask people the minute I meet them. Small talk is over rated. I hope it fits somewhere for you too.

The Invitation

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon…
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.

It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.

By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming, from the book The Invitation published by HarperONE, San Francisco, 1999 All rights reserved. http://www.oriahmountaindreamer.com

Ahh! That one. I love words.

Music news? Co wrote and recorded an awesome little song the other day down at Old School Studios. When I flew back from New York with Icelandair I also didn’t realise that they are the international version of ryanair. No food. No music. No movies.. No beers. Oh unless you pay extra for all of the above. Long haul, that SUCKS! But what I did have was a window seat, a notebook and a pencil. The original material is coming, slowly but surely. Tortoises are way cooler. They win too. I also just treated myself to a bass. Look out for these ninja fingers. And I had my first master class recording onto 8 track. Even managed to fit in washing and feeding the kids. God knows why I’m so tired.

Go CREATE X

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Day #200 – Light up the sky.

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Isn’t that beautiful?

Look at a love like that indeed. It’s what I aspire to and how I want to live.

What I have found great comfort in recently is not to expect anything from anyone. You need to be able to provide everything for yourself. All of your basic needs, both emotional and physical. Provide them for yourself. You need to love and cherish yourself first. It gives you such a feeling of self empowerment. I think this is especially important in relationships. It is so easy to suddenly place all of your happiness and needs onto another person and get angry with them when they’re not meeting those expectations. It’s not healthy.

I don’t mean that I don’t expect people to be nice. Or treat you well. But having this expectation that somebody else needs to act a certain way, or do certain things for you, is crazy. I know that I have definitely fallen into that trap on occasion and for that I’m truly sorry. We get caught up. It’s a sure fire way to feel suffocated, trapped and kill each others creativity. In any relationship. Platonic or romantic. You were separate beings when you met and it’s why you liked each other. Why expect them to join your camp? Can’t the camps co exist? Why do we always need to know what, where and how things are going?

Love isn’t a possession or a noun. It’s an action and it’s a verb. Once you shift your thinking this way, you realise that nobody can take that away. It’s impossible. Love is a way of being. Even when somebody walks away from you, you can still hold your action. Nobody can take that away. Get busy being lovING rather than trying to possess and hold onto a love.

Do everything from a place of love! For the love of it. Not because you are going to get something out of it. Not because you think it’ll lead to something else. Not because it’s what you should do. Just for the sheer joy of it. For the sake of it. Watch the shift in opportunities and people in your life. It’s incredible.

I realise that I don’t need anything. From anybody. That doesn’t mean I’m not willing to accept help from people or invite love into my life. But acknowledging the difference between need and want seems to be the thing here. Who doesn’t want love? I just don’t need it from someone else to feel good about myself. I don’t want to be reliant on another person to keep me standing up. That’s been the shift. What I want and what I need are separate. I forgot how much I believe this. If you love, respect and appreciate yourself already, you really don’t need anybody else to. It doesn’t matter. Beauty is everywhere. Look for it. Look up! It’s right in front of you. Take the time to walk down the street only looking for beautiful things and moments. Concentrate on the good. Focus on the positive. Watch the shift. It’s instantaneous. 

Be like the sun. Light up the entire sky.

In other news, I’ve got 165 days left to complete my Cosmic Order. Erm record deal, where are you? I want my experiment to work because experiments that work are FUN! X

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Day #160 -Dealing with real life trolls.

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I’ve only been doing this since May and I’ve already learnt so much more than I used to know about people. I thought I’d lost all of my naivety but it would appear I held on to a little. I’m actually happy about that. As it allows me to enter situations with a little more faith in people. But one of the things that has shocked me the most, is some peoples reactions to me when I’m trying to do something positive. What shocked me even more was some of these people are supposed to be my friends.

Internet trolls. I didn’t ever expect to attract any of them. When doing the protest for Gaza in London during the summer, I managed to attract some really angry people online. Obviously it’s a complex topic and was very raw but I wasn’t saying anything that tied me to either side of the conflict. I found myself being attacked by perfect strangers. Educated, young, regular people like myself. Trying to sabotage me and my efforts. It was odd. Even when I tried to explain my honest intentions. They had already decided their goal.

The thing is, trolls aren’t just confined to the likes of social media and the internet. No… Whether we are aware of it or not, there are a whole bunch of them in the real world too. We sometimes call them friends. We sometimes even go so far to call them family. They can be colleagues, strangers, teachers, friends of friends. We think because they’re close to us or they know our history that they must be right. Their opinion matters. They’re not trolls.

They are. A troll is a troll is a troll.

Look at your life right now. Think about all of the people in it. How they make you feel. Do they support you? Think about how they react when you talk about your endeavours. Are they excited for you? Do they ask questions? Are they even interested? Are their reactions positive and supportive? Because a friend or a family member surely would be right? They love you so they are interested in your passions and ambitions. Remind me, why is your best friend ignoring your career change? Why are they running you down?

Trolls don’t always attack directly. Sometimes they make fun of you in public. Sometimes they belittle you. Sometimes they just plain ignore anything and everything about you and what you’re working on. They pretend like they don’t know or care. They are trying to test your boundaries and are trying to make you bite. Don’t. You’re bigger and better.

I think for the most part, these people feel bad about themselves and for whatever reason, you are making them feel worse. They are stuck in their own unfavourable situation and are uncomfortable watching others get out of theirs. They immediately find the negative and point it out. It’s much easier to do that than look inwards. There is fear in them. This creates jealousy and anger.

What should we do about our trolls?!

Forgive them. Let it slide. Think how horrible it must be to have to live like that. To feel like that. Hope that they find some happiness. Remember who your trolls are. Don’t waste your energy even trying to explain what you’re currently up to. Protect yourself and your ideas from them. Whatever you do, don’t rise to them. That’s how they are fed. If you ignore them, they eventually get bored and fade away.

Failing that, both deleting and blocking are great options. In both worlds. X

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Day #155 – Check your wolves.

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When you’re following a new path and you’ve set your intentions on something, I think it’s really easy to forget to look inside. When you’re chasing ideas and exploring possibilities everything is suddenly outside of yourself. It feels ‘right’ and it feels good! Because you’re being proactive and working towards something. It’s too easy to ignore your reality. Your people.

I’ve realised that there is a massive need to stop every now and then and evaluate. Centre yourself. Check yourself. Be quiet. Look at yourself. Who you’re being. Is everything OK?

If everything is not ok, then you need to stop and fix things before you carry on. It’s always about the foundations and what you are building on. If you’re building on crap, if you’re creating new projects on stress and neglected relationships, none of that is going to get better. You’re taking broken things into your future. They’ll only break more. If you want them you have to fix them. Immediately.

I read this and I almost cried. I have such a respect for Native American culture. It resonates with me on a level that I couldn’t even try to explain. I don’t think anything else really needs to be said.

Do this.

‘A Native American grandfather was talking to his grandson about how he felt. He said ‘I feel as if I have two wolves fighting in my heart. One wolf is the vengeful, angry, violent one. The other wolf is the loving, compassionate one.’

The grandson asked him, ‘Which wolf will win the fight in your heart?’

The grandfather answered, ‘The one I feed.’

Don’t be so busy that everything around you starts crumbling. You need to take the good stuff with you as you move forwards and up. Check in with yourself regularly. Which wolf are you feeding? Is everything around you suffering? Or are you embracing your life with love?

Love is the antithesis of fear.

It’s not easy. It’s a journey. It’s a balance. It’s a juggling act.

But it’s beautiful.

Now if you’d just bare with me whilst I put my favourite people in my rucksack and let my angry wolf know that he’s sleeping outside tonight. X

In other news, I’m back in the studio this weekend. Pretty excited about that.

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Day #153 – Teething Problems.

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After my last post Day #147 – Master your time I thought I had this whole thing covered. I did. I had a plan. I wrote it down. What my plan didn’t take into consideration was that I’m not on my own. Maybe you’re not either. My plans can be numb chucked and karate kicked in the face by 4 significant others. One significant other is trying their personal best to make me stop this. Guess they’ve never heard that saying ‘What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger… ‘

I’m not going to stop. They can make it as hard as they like.

I finally have my recording equipment so I can record at home. The plan is to upload something new each week. My friend helped me install everything and showed me briefly what buttons to press. He made it look really simple. With hindsight, it’s his job. Today I came to recording my song. Oh my God. Honestly, I’m just hideous. I don’t know whether to puke or cry. It took an entire morning to stop the vocals sounding like Cher singing ‘Do you believe in life after love?’ Should I mention the first 20 minutes when I couldn’t get the mic to pick up any sound? I eventually pressed the power button. None of this comes naturally to me yet. I realised that I should have picked something much easier to record for my first go. Now I’m faffing around trying to put in backing vocals. Then the children came home. They make a lot of noise so it was game over for today. I also need to delete everything I recorded and start again. You’re telling me.

Sooooo as you can see, I’m encountering some teething problems.  I encounter teething problems with every single thing I set out to do. I guess that’s normal. I have learnt by now that the greatest things in life take the most effort. The awesome thing having encountered so many, mainly technical, issues is that having ploughed through them, I know I’ll find a way through this too. Google helps with that. As do some amazing friends. The things that I thought were impossible are now actually really easy. I know this will be the same.

On top of that thinking though, I need to change the way I approach new and technical situations. If I’m saying ‘I can’t, I’m not going to be able to, I’m not good at that’ before I’ve even tried, then the Law Of Attraction is just going to prove me right. And it does. Every single time. Think positive. Think yes.

Garageband. You’re mine.  X

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Day #119 – How you can help the people in Gaza and Israel. Now.

Do something great today.

Do something great today.

The need to help other living things and the planet is something that has been in me since I was really small. I’d often take a black sack and walk around the village and the hills in search of litter to protect wildlife. I had a shed full of injured birds, rabbits and lambs. If I saw someone who was sad or lonely, I would befriend them. As a child, I didn’t even question it. Perhaps my parents instilled good values in me. Perhaps it was a natural instinct. I don’t know. But I do know, I can’t live any other way.

Why is this relevant to Cosmic Order or my music journey? Well. The law of attraction states that the more you give the more you get.  We are like magnets. Whatever emotion or action we are promoting from ourselves, the universe will give us that back en masse. If for no other reason than to increase your own fortune, help someone or something less fortunate than yourself. You’ll make somebody else feel great, you’ll feel great… The world will be a better place.

A few weeks ago, I organised a small protest in London for the people of Gaza and Israel (So as not to repeat myself, details of that can be found on Day #92 – Responsibility. Take some). Since then I have been trying to find other ways of helping the innocent civilians on both sides of the conflict. It’s all too easy to forget about things the minute the media decides to report something else. Here are the latest facts and figures on the recent 50 day conflict to keep you up to date.

‘In Gaza, more than 2,100 people have been killed, most of them civilians, including about 500 children… 11,000 people were injured and more than 17,000 homes destroyed or badly damaged… On the Israeli side 64 soldiers and 5 civilians including 1 child were killed… hundreds of families relocated from homes near the Gaza border…’ The Guardian, 2014

With reconstruction of Gaza set to take at least 10 years and a third of the population displaced, every inch of help is needed, both financially and politically. Simple things that we take for granted have been annihilated such as schools, hospitals, factories, water supplies, farms and power plants. What can you do? Here’s the awesome part.

Have you ever heard of the children’s charity SOS Children? As one of the world’s largest children’s charities you’d think you would have right? But putting most of their efforts and money into action rather than marketing, it’s not surprising if you haven’t.

SOS Children are non political and non religious and remain neutral in all conflicts. Based in 125 countries world wide with 547 villages in operation, the charity offer orphaned children the chance of a loving home and a bright future. The work they do is INCREDIBLE. The villages SOS children create not only offer love and support, they also provide education, healthcare and nutrition. In times of conflict, they offer emergency relief.

I emailed them and asked how we can support them in Israel and Gaza at this time. Their work there is ongoing. They are there and are facing extreme pressure at this time. They have villages in both states. Two in Israel and two in Gaza. In both, the work SOS Children do extends outside the villages into the wider community, offering medical services, family support and social centres. For more information about their brilliant work in the area check out their website http://www.soschildrensvillages.org.uk/sponsor-a-child/the-middle-east   and click on each territory respectively.

Having been overwhelmed with support, the charity currently have no individual child sponsorships in Palestine but are desperate for village sponsorships or regular donations. In Palestine, these would be either Bethlehem or Rafah. Rafah being the most desperate presently. By supporting an entire village, your money will be spent in your chosen village as needed. 

When the charity told me they were in need of child sponsorships in Israel, I must admit I was shocked. It’s quite obvious that Gaza has suffered considerably more collaterally in this conflict by just looking at the figures alone. However, despite Israel’s strong economy, a quarter of the population live in poverty. Regular donations to their villages in Israel, especially Neradim, Arad, or village sponsorship would be of greatest use at this time.

Links to child and village sponsorship

Details of what a village sponsorship involves can be found here http://www.soschildrensvillages.org.uk/sponsor-a-child/life-in-a-childrens-village/sponsor-an-sos-childrens-village

100% of your donations go DIRECTLY to a child in need. Isn’t that refreshing? You can check out their accounts on their website if you think it’s too good to be true.

I have sponsored a child in India for around 5 years now. I have a personal address for her village, I am sent letters and photos. I can write if I want to but am not expected to. I can send her house gifts. I can put money aside for her when she’s older. It’s just such a great and personal program.

Your donation doesn’t have to be massive. Every little helps. You will be supporting fantastic work that is actually doing something on the ground and making a difference to the children and families directly affected. You can make a difference. Here is a chance.

If you can’t afford it, then spread the word. And remember you said you can’t afford it when you’re buying those shiny new shoes…

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Day #29 – Appreciation and Gratitude.

When you focus too much on the problems in your life and the things you lack, you not only put all the energy in the wrong place, you become blind to the beauty that is all around you. You simply can’t get and won’t be given any more, until you appreciate what you already have and are grateful for it. Everything that you already have is enough. Yes you want more. But just stop a minute to say thank you for all that you have already. Because you have a lot. All of us do.

Can you love your life with all that you have presently? Can you be happy without the ‘more’ that you’re chasing? It’s a tough one. But we need to be. That’s real gratitude. The good news is that once you can actually do that, there’s no tricking the universe, more will flow your way. Our sense of lack and high expectations actually block us from all that we could be.

Make a list of all of the positive things in your life. Make a list of all your favourite things in your life. Fill your paper with it.  Make lists of things that you love. People you love. Smells you love. Every day just write it all down. If you go to a restaurant look for your favourite things. Expect the best. Make it a daily thing. Write lists and lists and lists of the great things in your life. However small you deem them. Think about how much time you spend typing on Facebook, twitter, text messages, iMessages, emails. You’ve clearly got the time. This will also make you glow like no expensive beauty cream ever can or will. Double whammy.

Remember that sciencey post on Day #27 about vibrations? By appreciating and being grateful for all of the positive and good things in your life, you will begin to shift into a new vibrational frequency. Let’s call it the appreciation zone. Suddenly, you’ll stop complaining and criticising. You will be attracted to better things. Things that only increase this feeling of gratitude. When you’re in this zone – actual magic happens. Well you know, it’s not magic magic, but can’t we just call it that because it sounds more whimsical? Must we always be so serious…

So say ‘Thank you”. All the time. Wake up and say it. Think it. Feel it. Be thankful in the shower, on your way to work. When you have food. When you have clean water. When somebody calls you. That you are warm. Be thankful. Make it a habit. A way of being. Even repeating the word ‘Thank you’ over and over and over again will begin to shift your mind from the negative and complaining zone to a brighter and clearer one.

If you have a spare ten minutes I really recommend watching this. Stick with it. It’s got some wise words and pictures.

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Be thankful for the things you want but don’t yet have. Feel them. Be grateful. Your words, thoughts and feelings CREATE your reality. X