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Day #342 – Look after yourself.

Gemma Correll Look After Yourself

We are all so busy. All running around like mad people. All trying to get somewhere to be someone. Constantly striving for the future at such a speed that we seemingly miss this moment we call now. Now’s never enough, we always want the next bit and then we get the next bit and we want the bit after… Bloody human beings. Amid this madness most of us have forgotten the importance of looking after ourselves. It’s right at the bottom of our to do list. Rest? No! If I sit down or, God forbid lie down, all progress will come to a halt. I need to be at this 24/7! Must. Keep. Going.

Having been generally unwell for at least the last two months, I decided to maybe look into this. No. Not maybe. I’m going to. I’m going to start looking after myself. I’ve been getting through my days loaded with coffee and painkillers and antibiotics. That in itself is quite hilarious as I used to be such an advocate of homeopathy and alternative health. What’s changed? I’ve stopped caring about my health. There was even a time back in the day I washed my hair with eggs and vinegar because I was so anti any chemicals entering my body. That, by the way, is a stupid idea. Eggs and vinegar neither smell fresh or clean your head. I don’t care what anybody says. So yeah, look after yourself, but let’s not turn into Swampy.

Sometimes the only thing that is going to make you strong and healthy so you can be your awesome productive self is just slowing down and nurturing yourself for a while. Sleeping good. Eating good. Removing all of the things that are stressing you out. Everything on that to do list can wait. You’ll have a to do list for the rest of your life. You’ll never get to the bottom of it. Ever. Don’t die trying. Break free from the ropes and chains that you’ve wound yourself up in. We live in an age where we are far too contactable. Our phones are constantly pinging with messages, whattsaps, facebook, twitter, emails, phone calls, more emails, more messages. More reminders. It’s insane. “Can you do this for me right now? Can you be here? Be there. Do this. Immediately.” This is all on top of regular work. Family commitments. Socialising. Our day to day life. We don’t stop to think that maybe we should slow down. We’ve got to do everything NOW else we’ll miss the boat.

Well, I beg to differ. Boats come and go. All the time. The sea is mostly full of boats. I’m tired and my body hurts. Mostly all over. My shoulder is cracked. My tonsils are probably the most angry they’ve been in a long time. My glands are refusing to back down. My knee is crying. I don’t really recall the last day I didn’t have a headache. All of that is fine. I mean really, it could be a thousand times worse and I’m grateful I’m just a little bit run down (wow is the British ‘Mustn’t Grumble’ attitude genetic?!) but what I’ve learnt is that you can’t actually be productive when you’re broken. There’s no point to it. Exhaustion is there to tell you to rest. But we don’t. We all just charge on. Ignore what our bodies are telling us. We refuse to stop. But nothing seems to flow because there is no energy left. You can’t be creative without energy. Coffee can only carry you so far.

You want to hear the truth? We are all fuelling a ridiculous machine of self importance and productivity. I don’t want to hear that so I’m sure you don’t either.  The world isn’t going to end if you don’t reply to your emails within 5 minutes. And if it does, what a world to live in! Your Mum can probably decide what pasta to buy without your instantaneous response to her picture message and you genuinely don’t need 5 different platforms for people to contact you on. You know what will end your world though? Not looking after yourself. Hearts pop you know. That’s a real thing.

Sometimes we need to retreat. That doesn’t mean quit. Or fail. Or digress. It means relax and welcome the spontaneous creative force of life to come and find you again. It’s only from this state of being that things can and will run smoothly. Do something every single day that nurtures you. And turn off your phone.

We are mere mortals. Let’s not forget.  X

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Day #3 – Laying some strong foundations

Plant new seeds.

Plant new seeds.

The great thing about this cosmic ordering malarky is that rather than just running after your dream, it makes you look at yourself in a different light and analyse why things have turned out how they have and why your dreams are just that. Dreams.

The next step after having consciously decided exactly what you want and realising that daydreaming and desires are not doing something is to rid yourself of all negativity. This gets interesting. And hard.

Why do we all hate on ourselves so much? I remember reading somewhere once that you should talk to yourself like you’d talk to your best friend. Would you really beat someone else up as much as you do yourself? Unless you’re super mean, I’m sure the answer is no. It’s horrible isn’t it?! Next time you’re telling yourself how useless you are, stop and think about it. I’m pretty sure if we talked like that to other people, we’d have no friends.

“Words are like seeds. Nurture the beautiful ones and watch for unwanted weeds creeping in.” – Dennis Noble

For so long I have told myself that I can’t be a singer. Doesn’t matter that I want it like nothing else. I can’t do it. Here is why. My ‘seeds’. That I have given way too much water for far too long.

  • Too fat
  • Too ugly
  • Not as good as Nina Simone, Aretha Franklin, Beyoncé etc etc
  • Too shy
  • Everybody will laugh at me
  • Absolutely not cool enough
  • Too technologically stupid
  • Waaaaay too old
  • I have children

Reading through that list, I’m feeling pretty embarrassed and stupid. But I’m going to leave it there because those, however ridiculous, have been my thoughts. By sharing them, I’m calling them out, showing them I have power over them now and hopefully inspiring you to do the same. I really recommend writing your own list, sharing it with someone you trust and realising that yours too are hideous.

Before, I thought to myself, I can’t sing publicly until I’m as good as any of my hero singers. Haaaaaa! I’ll be waiting my whole life to be as good as Nina Simone. A piece of advice that my step father inadvertently gave to me was that there will always be people better than you. There will also always be people worse than you. That will never change. You can’t wait until you’re what you consider ‘the best’. You’ll be waiting forever.

Some of my seeds are true. I am too shy. It’s ridiculous. Put me on a stage and I’m shaking, I feel like I’m going to be sick and sometimes if I’m lucky words don’t actually come out of my mouth. Could make for a funny comedy channel on YouTube, but I’m aiming higher. Even though this seed is actually a fact, I’m still ripping it up. I’m planting a new seed. Confidence. I’m going to give that one plant food too.

What has this got to do with anything? Surely I should be singing and making contacts and recording etc etc? Well yeah, I’ve got to, want to and will do that. But how can I succeed if I don’t believe in myself? If I don’t think I’m worth it? How can I make somebody else believe in something I don’t even believe in. That’s crazy talk.

I think this is a massive step that is all too often missed out and will always come back to bite you. By removing all of the negative thoughts and beliefs you have about yourself and replacing them with positive and motivated ones, you’ll only attract a positive and productive life.

Dont get me wrong, this is much easier said than done! But if you really focus and really want your life to change for the better, you’ll do it. I’m doing it and I already feel so much better than a week ago. I don’t hate myself anymore. For the first time ever I believe I deserve this. Im ready to hit myself with fresh, inspiring, positive thoughts that I can and will succeed.

I am feeling both enlightened and empowered because I’m becoming more aware, more conscious of my actions and thoughts.

Exciting times.

BoOOOOooooOoooM  X

 

 

 

Day #1 – Let the games begin.

So this is it. Here we go.

365 days – wait, is it a leap year? Does that matter?

OK.

No, it doesn’t matter.

365 days from now, the 1st of May 2014, to make all that I’ve ever dreamed of. Happen. Actually.

One of the first realisations I have had over the last few weeks is that having dreams isn’t doing something. Sounds pretty obvious doesn’t it? Of course having a dream isn’t doing something. But think about it. How often do you sit there, day dreaming, waiting for everything that you want in your life to be delivered? Sometimes you dream so hard you feel like you’re moving forward towards your goals. You’ve dreamed about it, you know exactly how it’s going to happen, you’re a good person, you’ve had hard times, surely you just deserve it, right? Because you want it.

We live in a time where we are used to getting things quickly with very little effort. We expect things to happen on their own, that people will be friendly, that situations will be favourable. We expect somebody else to just realise that we are amazing and offer us all that we want.

Having dreams isn’t enough. Anything and everything takes effort and work. Everything.

Are you ready to do what it takes to achieve your desires?

I’ve been so scared and unaware of myself that I have fallen into this trap. I’ve been at home, singing in my bathroom, waiting for the record label to knock on my door.

I have been stuck in a day dream.

The good news is that I’ve decided to change the way i think. The way i act. The way i live. I have opened the bathroom door now and am terrified but ready to do this.

Let’s go.