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Day #262 – It is what it is what it is.

 

The last 3 months I have been in proper turmoil with myself. My mind has been a chaotic, confused, helpless space. I’ve been waging this weird war inside my head. Struggling, beating myself up, questioning, begging… trying to fix things. Find things. Find an answer to all of this.

But then one day, I just decided from somewhere that it was enough now. I have to accept things as they are. Which you know… got me thinking.

When somebody tells you to ‘accept things’ we automatically associate that with settling. With not striving. With making do. With not trying to make things better. I’ve learnt that actually, it’s not that at all. Accepting is not the same as resigning yourself to the situation that you are so desperately trying to escape or better.

There’s absolutely no point in struggling against the things that you cannot change. Or the people you cannot change. Wishing that things were different. What could have been. What might be. If you just do this. Just do that… Stop! Accept things literally as they are. Right now. Even if you don’t like it. It’s the absolute and fundamental first step. This is your present moment.

No amount of wishing your situation away or rejecting it is going to make it go away. Rather than getting angry about it, blaming other people for it or shouting about how downright unfair life is, just accept that this is where you are right now. This is what is at your table. Have a good look at it. Get to know it. How does it make you feel? By looking at it square on, you know exactly what you’re playing with. If you don’t like it, it’s absolutely possible to change it, but you must accept it first. It’s imperative. Also the more you struggle and work against what you’re being dealt, the more energy you’re giving it. Have we learnt what that does yet? Makes it bigger. Stop feeding it.

We all have real life covering us. With real life comes responsibilities and restrictions at different times. One minute you’re flying high and the next you’re getting punched in the guts. Welcome to life! I know that I’m guilty of wishing some of my responsibilities away at different times. I’ve had this constant battle inside of late to push things forward quickly. This constant worry that if I don’t act immediately everything will pass me by and I’ll only be left with ‘real life’. The thought terrifies me. This music thing HAS to happen for me. I literally don’t even know what I’ll do if it doesn’t. But with that thought, comes a constant state of striving and looking to the future. Waiting. When’s it going to happen? Have I screwed it up? What if that was my best and only option? What I’ve started to do instead is just accept that this right here is where I am. It’s neither good or bad. It’s just my place. It’s very different to the place I was in 6 months ago and I’m sure in 6 months from now, I’ll say the same. I’ve decided to stop struggling. Here is where I am, and actually, looking around… It’s pretty sweet. I am so fortunate.

Trust that everything is unfolding just as it should. Every single situation that you find yourself in is preparing you for your desired goal. Your divine purpose. I remember when I first started and I thought I’d never get anyone to read my blog, I had no idea how I was going to even record a song. The band that I’m in were played on BBC Radio 6 music last night. Could I have foreseen that? Expected it? Absolutely not. If you look back 6 months at your own life, you’ll see that too. Stop trying to swim upstream and flap around. You’ll drown. Come this way. Float down the river.

Accepting things doesn’t mean sitting back and doing nothing. By no means. Nothing happens if you don’t work hard for it. Accepting things is a state of mind. Observe and accept that where you are and what you are doing right at this moment has it’s own role in your grand scheme. As you begin to accept your current self you can also plan for a brighter future. You’ll be able to see much more clearly where and what you you need to stop fighting with.

Sometimes the things that we have to accept aren’t things that we have inflicted on ourselves. They are nobody’s fault and out of everybody’s control. But as soon as we accept and own our situation, a certain power fills your bones. You’re back in control and you can look at things in a more manageable way. This is what you’ve got. What are you going to do with it? How are you going to deal with it?

Nobody said it was easy x

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Day #233 – The Invitation.

Then, one day she decided to design a life she loved.

Then, one day she decided to design a life she loved.

I’m somewhat technically limited presently. I’m without laptop and constrained to this strange invention one calls an iPad. Honestly, not sure why anybody would have one. It’s just a massive phone. I could have put my cash towards one the other day, but I chose a bass over a computer. It’s all for the same cause. Far prettier than any laptop I’ve ever seen and she speaks a language I understand. I can’t complan… Not too much.

Instead of writing a blog today and hammering you with personal development ideas, I’m going to share this beautiful poem I read the other day. It is Christmas after all! And the Winter Solstice! That’s quite significant. Today is the perfect day to set your intentions for the coming year. This poem made me so happy and resonated with me on every level. It’s basically what I want to ask people the minute I meet them. Small talk is over rated. I hope it fits somewhere for you too.

The Invitation

It doesn’t interest me
what you do for a living.
I want to know
what you ache for
and if you dare to dream
of meeting your heart’s longing.

It doesn’t interest me
how old you are.
I want to know
if you will risk
looking like a fool
for love
for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me
what planets are
squaring your moon…
I want to know
if you have touched
the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened
by life’s betrayals
or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know
if you can sit with pain
mine or your own
without moving to hide it
or fade it
or fix it.

I want to know
if you can be with joy
mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you
to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us
to be careful
to be realistic
to remember the limitations
of being human.

It doesn’t interest me
if the story you are telling me
is true.
I want to know if you can
disappoint another
to be true to yourself.
If you can bear
the accusation of betrayal
and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless
and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty
even when it is not pretty
every day.
And if you can source your own life
from its presence.

I want to know
if you can live with failure
yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon,
“Yes.”

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live
or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up
after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone
and do what needs to be done
to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me
who you know
or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
in the centre of the fire
with me
and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me
where or what or with whom
you have studied.
I want to know
what sustains you
from the inside
when all else falls away.

I want to know
if you can be alone
with yourself
and if you truly like
the company you keep
in the empty moments.

By Oriah © Mountain Dreaming, from the book The Invitation published by HarperONE, San Francisco, 1999 All rights reserved. http://www.oriahmountaindreamer.com

Ahh! That one. I love words.

Music news? Co wrote and recorded an awesome little song the other day down at Old School Studios. When I flew back from New York with Icelandair I also didn’t realise that they are the international version of ryanair. No food. No music. No movies.. No beers. Oh unless you pay extra for all of the above. Long haul, that SUCKS! But what I did have was a window seat, a notebook and a pencil. The original material is coming, slowly but surely. Tortoises are way cooler. They win too. I also just treated myself to a bass. Look out for these ninja fingers. And I had my first master class recording onto 8 track. Even managed to fit in washing and feeding the kids. God knows why I’m so tired.

Go CREATE X

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Day #200 – Light up the sky.

love

Isn’t that beautiful?

Look at a love like that indeed. It’s what I aspire to and how I want to live.

What I have found great comfort in recently is not to expect anything from anyone. You need to be able to provide everything for yourself. All of your basic needs, both emotional and physical. Provide them for yourself. You need to love and cherish yourself first. It gives you such a feeling of self empowerment. I think this is especially important in relationships. It is so easy to suddenly place all of your happiness and needs onto another person and get angry with them when they’re not meeting those expectations. It’s not healthy.

I don’t mean that I don’t expect people to be nice. Or treat you well. But having this expectation that somebody else needs to act a certain way, or do certain things for you, is crazy. I know that I have definitely fallen into that trap on occasion and for that I’m truly sorry. We get caught up. It’s a sure fire way to feel suffocated, trapped and kill each others creativity. In any relationship. Platonic or romantic. You were separate beings when you met and it’s why you liked each other. Why expect them to join your camp? Can’t the camps co exist? Why do we always need to know what, where and how things are going?

Love isn’t a possession or a noun. It’s an action and it’s a verb. Once you shift your thinking this way, you realise that nobody can take that away. It’s impossible. Love is a way of being. Even when somebody walks away from you, you can still hold your action. Nobody can take that away. Get busy being lovING rather than trying to possess and hold onto a love.

Do everything from a place of love! For the love of it. Not because you are going to get something out of it. Not because you think it’ll lead to something else. Not because it’s what you should do. Just for the sheer joy of it. For the sake of it. Watch the shift in opportunities and people in your life. It’s incredible.

I realise that I don’t need anything. From anybody. That doesn’t mean I’m not willing to accept help from people or invite love into my life. But acknowledging the difference between need and want seems to be the thing here. Who doesn’t want love? I just don’t need it from someone else to feel good about myself. I don’t want to be reliant on another person to keep me standing up. That’s been the shift. What I want and what I need are separate. I forgot how much I believe this. If you love, respect and appreciate yourself already, you really don’t need anybody else to. It doesn’t matter. Beauty is everywhere. Look for it. Look up! It’s right in front of you. Take the time to walk down the street only looking for beautiful things and moments. Concentrate on the good. Focus on the positive. Watch the shift. It’s instantaneous. 

Be like the sun. Light up the entire sky.

In other news, I’ve got 165 days left to complete my Cosmic Order. Erm record deal, where are you? I want my experiment to work because experiments that work are FUN! X

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Day #162 – Negative thoughts are a bugger.

vincent

We each have an inner voice. It can be constructive and support us. Or it can be destructive and make us feel terrible. When we are feeling motivated and upbeat, our inner voice is usually on our side. Telling us that we can do anything. We feel great about ourselves and everything that we are doing.

But what happens when our inner voice turns sour? You’re on your journey. You’ve been working like a crazy person. You’ve been so positive. Out of nowhere, or somewhere, you’ve suddenly had it. You no longer believe in yourself. You must just be really awful at everything you do. Why would anybody ever believe in you? You cant do it. What a disappointment you are.

Our inner work is never done. If you neglect it, a crash of some description is inevitable. I’ve been feeling pretty rubbish about myself. This is not a feeling you want when you are exploring the law of attraction. By thinking negative things about myself over and over, I’m creating more of it. I feel worthless, undeserving, talentless. My inner voice is saying very unkind things and I’m just sitting back and letting it. I don’t know why. I guess I still believe it on some level.

I got my recording equipment and I was so excited about it. I tried to record something and I couldn’t. I failed. The song I picked had weird timing and backing vocals and I couldn’t get my head around it. When I did, I played the recording back to myself and just thought it sounded awful. I didn’t/don’t know how to adjust the levels. I started reading about EQ and compressing… I felt overwhelmed. I still do. All I want to do is sing. And I want to do it really well. My only redeeming thought was that I was going to the studio. I’d have something recorded to upload. I’m overly conscious that I need to upload way more music. More regularly and now. I need to do that now. Nothing is going to happen for me musically without music! We recorded something and I didn’t like the way I sang. All of these things are now supporting my negative inner voice. You’re useless. Give up. Stop wasting your time you idiot.

This is what happens though! It’s the universe challenging us. Helping us develop and grow even more. You thought you’d worked through that block? You haven’t! I haven’t! I still don’t think I’m worth it. Go back and do more work. Love yourself love yourself love yourself. If you don’t love yourself, you are more likely to believe the negative thoughts and beliefs your inner voice creates. No other living thing on this planet ‘feels bad’ about itself. Let’s not either. Let’s be leaves. Or walruses.

We need to learn and master how to control our inner voice. That voice is just our thoughts and we create them. We decide whether to believe them. We can therefore decide to ignore the detrimental ones and create new positive ones. Look at where the thought is coming from. Look at what will happen if you believe it. Is it for your greater good? Do you like where this thought leads you? If the answer is no, then we must choose not to give it any attention. When the thought you are trying to rid yourself of comes into your mind, replace it. Think something positive. If you’re busy listing what you perceive to be your bad qualities, start listing your great ones! If you cant manage it just tell your negative limiting beliefs “I let you go – I approve of myself.’ Let them all go. Visualise them floating away.

You are as worthy and incredible as the stars in the sky. You are unique. And irreplaceable. That’s a true fact for all of us.

It’s funny isn’t it? We spend a lot of our lives looking for love. For the one. For somebody who will love us unconditionally. Yet most of us don’t think to look inside and love ourselves unconditionally first.

I love writing this blog. It helps me work through so many things. I already feel better and brighter. I research and discover such great personal development theories. Sharing it makes me happy because I know so many other people who struggle with the same obstacles and issues over and over again. If me being honest even helps one of them that’s enough.

Right! Let’s go approve of ourselves and remember we’re worth everything. X

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Day #64 – Cosmic craft.

Example board.

Example board. Can be as full as you like.

Seeing things really helps you believe in them. By collecting a bunch of images and words that represent the life we want, our mind begins to believe that it is ours. When placed somewhere the board can be seen every day, it acts as a reminder to us what is important and what we are working towards. It keeps us focused. All big businesses and corporations use this technique. Mood boards. Product boards. Customer boards. Keeping what they want in mind at all times.

If you do what I outline below, I can assure you that not only will you immediately feel happier and brighter, you will feel a lot more focused and what you want will feel within reach. Yes I know. It feels like a massive task. It requires you to actually DO something. Not just read about being a better person. Or read about changing the way you think. I’m asking you to pick up a pair of scissors and a glue stick. It’s a daunting task..

What you’re going to need:

  • Piles of magazines/newspapers (it’s what you’ve been saving them all for ladies)
  • If you have none of the above print out images from your computer
  • Glue or something else sticky.
  • Scissors
  • A large piece of card/paper etc to act as your board.

Step 1.

Literally flick through any old magazines, newspapers and leaflets. Anything that you don’t mind tearing apart. Look for words that stand out to you. Images that attract you. They can be people. Places. Cartoons. Big words. Small words. Anything that stands out. It doesn’t need to make sense at this point. Trust your instincts. You’ll understand at a later date. Over the next year or so. Want a new partner? Look for pictures of people together that you perceive to be ideal. Images of hearts. The word LOVE. Want to go on holiday? Images of where you would like to go. Want to be healthier/thinner? Images of your ideal body shape, healthy foods, people exercising. You get the idea? You want it? Cut it out. Just be careful not to get sucked into the adverts and fake ideals. Remember this is about what YOU want. Not what the media tells you to want. If you can’t find the image you want, print it off the computer. This is not only a great exercise to get you focusing on your actual goals, it’s also making you go through piles of old magazines that needed to be thrown away anyway. It’s all about killing two birds.

My pile of life.

My pile of life.

Step 2.

Look at all your clippings. How do they make you feel? If any make you feel anxious in a bad way or tense, then perhaps reconsider them or look at the reasons why you think you want that particular thing. Your little pile should make you feel warm and happy. This is your pile of life. What you want. What you desire. What you can achieve. Make sure you have everything that you want. Don’t worry about how you’ll get it. Mine includes a horse. God knows where I’d even put a horse but I really like stroking their faces. You might need to add a few images to it at a later date. That’s fine. Doesn’t mean you can’t start it right now.

Step 3.

Grab your board. It can be anything. If you’re really stuck use your cereal box. Don’t make excuses. You’ll have something you can use! Now just relax and enjoy sticking your desires onto said board. As you stick each word/image try to connect with it. Imagine you have it already. The more engaged we are with this, the quicker the universe will bring it to you. Like attracts like. If you vibrate at the same frequency as the things you want, you’ll attract them quicker. It’s that simple.

Place your board somewhere that you will see it every day. Look at it and get excited. This just helps speed things up. If you’re not keen having it on show in your house, perhaps you can pin it up inside your wardrobe door or something. Personally I don’t think you should be embarrassed or shy away from your desires. Sharing your dreams also just speeds up the delivery. You’ll be so amazed a year down the line when you look back at this vision board and see just how much of it you actually achieved. It’s a great feeling. An extension of this is to use images of the things you really want on your phone/computer screen saver. Wash your brain in images of what you want.

Now isn’t that much easier to see than it was the mess in our head?

Time to get to work X

 

 

 

 

Day #53 – Don’t quit.

We can create whatever we want. Whatever we believe about ourselves.

We can create whatever we want. Whatever we believe about ourselves.

Sometimes we have a great idea. We have a moment of enlightenment. We catch a rare glimpse of what our life could be like if we let it. If we just chased that dream. If we just took that leap of faith. We feel alive. Happy. Light. Everything is better. Then something else catches our attention. The phone rings. The boss asks you to do something. You have to pick the kids up from school. The woman in the supermarket is asking you for your club card. You hit back to reality and it feels somehow worse than it did before. You can’t really say why you’re suddenly feeling so irritable and discontent. You’re unaware of what just happened. Day dreaming is making your life miserable. You know exactly what you want, but you’re not going for it. You’re living this life that wasn’t really what you ever wanted.

What’s the answer?

Change it.

Yeah, it’s actually that simple.

First of all, I think it’s important to mention that every situation you find yourself in, you created. Whether you like it or not. You created it based on your beliefs about yourself. It’s what you thought you were worth. It’s as far as you wanted to push yourself. For whatever reason. But it was and is nobody else’s fault that you are where you are today. Owning your situation will make you feel more empowered to change. Forget what has happened in the past. The people that put you down, or made you feel like you weren’t good enough. Again, they were and are a mere projection of how you feel about yourself. Not every door is going to lead somewhere. That doesn’t mean that you are going to fail. It just means you need to try more doors. And you need to keep trying doors until one opens. You can’t stop halfway through and say it’s not working out. Of course it’s not working out. You’re going to quit. The next door might have been the right one! You’ll never know! Keep going. Next. Next. Next…

If you can imagine it. If you can feel it in your daydreams like it is so real, then it can be. Make it happen for yourself. Think about what you want. Entirely and fully. Imagine what it looks like, smells like, sounds like. Imagine how you feel. Where are you? What do you look like? Are you standing different? Are you more confident? If you are miserable because you are not doing what you really want to be doing, then do it. You CANT fail.

The only tool you need is faith. Get rid of your safety harness. Prove to the world what you want. Know what you want. Be specific. Visualise it. Work hard. But don’t worry about how it is going to come about. Sometimes we find opportunity in the strangest of places. Tell everyone who asks you what you’re up to. THIS IS WHAT I’M UP TO! Get in touch with people. Ask people. Someone is always listening. Work on what you want to do every single day. Prepare yourself and your ‘product’ so you’re ready for the next step. Send out the right message.

If you have a list of excuses and reasons that are holding you back, please send them in to me. I’d be more than happy to destroy them for you. Infact please, that would bring me a lot of joy. Send me your dream and why you can’t do it. Anonymously if you must. Contact details are under the tab ‘Contact’ oddly. I’ll blog my favourites as working examples. The only underlying reason that holds any of us back is that we don’t love ourselves. It’s like we’re taught it’s a sin. I’ll blog about this next. It’s important.

It might be stressful. You might get knocked back a lot of times. But keep getting up. Keep moving forwards. Keep on and on and on. Even when you’re crying and saying I can’t do this anymore. Keep doing it some more. What’s the alternative? Curling up in a ball of regret? Nah. Keep working at it. It is tiring. And sometimes you really just don’t want to do it anymore. Someone just make it stop. Unfortunately, it won’t stop. It will never stop, because this is what you’re supposed to do. It’s what your being desires. It won’t stop until you’ve done everything you feel you ever could to make it happen.

Then it’s all Bam. You’ve made it. You’re the new Harry Potter. X